If your child is refusing to do school work…Try these strategies:
- Demonstrate an authoritative approach to parenting by being both responsive and demanding.
- In demonstrating responsiveness, you convey warmth, caring, and respect as you respond to your child's emotional, social, and academic needs.
- Establishing clear behavioral and academic expectations and routines (such as completing homework), having fair rules and consequences, and closely monitoring engagement-related behavior.
- Use praise and rewards wisely and strategically.
- Praise and reward your child for good behavior, but especially for behavior related to student engagement, such as completing assignments. (“I really like how hard you have been working.”)
- Using rewards wisely and strategically also means that you are not harming your child's internal motivation.
- Closely monitor and assist with homework assignments, as appropriate.
- Provide a set time and appropriate place for completing homework, have clear expectations, and check to make sure all assignments are completed and on time.
- When your child has options to choose from, guide your child to choose materials and activities that match their interests, values, and goals.
- When choices are not an option, try to point out the value of learning the new skill—even if the skill does not relate directly to the child's interests and future goals.
- Challenge your child to set short-term and long- term goals and to develop plans for achieving them.
- Goals should be realistic and geared toward both academics and behavior.
- Ask them to think about what one or two things they can get done today